The Complete Book of International Adoption - On page 62, I give excerpts from interviews with two adoptive moms who made the decision to adopt two unrelated similar aged children at the same time and one mom who decided to not adopt two.
Information and Resources on Artificial Twinning/Virtual Twins/Forced Twins in Adoption:
Artificial Twinning/Virtual Twins Through Adoption is also known as false twinning, forced twins,pseudo-twinning, or judicial twins.
Great essay in the Motherlode column of the NYT (I Wanted ‘Twins’) by a mom who created artificial or virtual twins by adopting a child from China that was within 9 months of a child already in her home. Beautifully written and covers the issues, both pro and con, well.
An honest blog post about the ups and downs of parenting children 2 months apart. Good stuff here.
Instant Family? A Case Against Artificial Twinning by Patricia Irwin Johnston as promised by the title, this article argues against adopting two unrelated healthy infants at the same time. It does not address adopting an older child that is the same age as a child already in the family
An article by a mom of artificial twins that acknowledges the disadvantages while maintaining that it is possible to do well.
Artificial Twinning: This article raises the point of the potential for unscrupulous agencies and facilitators to create fraudulent artificial twins / virtual twins playing in to many adoptive parents desire for an instant family. When an agency or orphanage deceives families and the government in an attempt to pass off unrelated children as biological twins. This is what I want to address today. Fraudulent artificial twinning.
Great Blogs by Parents of Artifical Twins/Virtual Twins/Forced Twins:
Is There Any Mommy Out There - I love this woman's writing--honest, clear, and at times funny. Her daughter arrived from Haiti at 14 months when her bio son was 12 months. Has two younger children now.
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