Top Ten Tips For Preparing an Adoptive Parent Profile (Dear Birth Mother Letter)
- Be genuine. In other words, be yourself. Perhaps the best version of yourself, but still recognizable.
- The adoption profile must give the expectant woman a feel for who you are and what type of parent you will be.
- Write as if you are talking with a friend. Don’t dumb down your language, but don’t use a $10 word when a $1 word will do.
- Don’t sound desperate. Yes, I know that you likely feel a little desperate, but edit that out of your Dear Birthmother Letter.
- Use action pictures in your adoptive parent profile whenever possible.
- Use a caption with every picture. Make your captions as descriptive as possible. (For example, with a picture of Rob tussling with his nephews--“Here is Rob playing his favorite role—Uncle Robby.”)
- If showing a beach scene, avoid overly revealing shots of bikinis and Speedos. These type of pictures don’t radiate parental vibes and are usually not appealing to a pregnant woman.
- After you finish your adoption profile have a friend in her early 20s review it. Ask her if the couple described would be someone she would want to raise a child. Give her total permission to be honest. Of course, also have your social worker review the adoption profile as well. Listen to their suggestions.
- Post your profile on adoptive parent profile sites, your agency site, and your Facebook page. Post about the availability of your Dear Birthmother Letter on Twitter.
- Let your family, friends, clergy, and obstetricians/gynecologist know you are hoping to adopt and where they can send a prospective birthmother to find your adoption profile.