Comments on: “Adoption is Not the Same as Having a Child of Your Own”

By: Fatima

Fatima — Thu, 12 May 2011 18:27:49 +0000

This is very touching, educative and informative indeed! God bless you and thank you for sharing.

By: Dawn

Dawn — Fri, 25 Mar 2011 10:48:13 +0000

Grace, that brought tears to my eyes!

By: grace

grace — Fri, 25 Mar 2011 10:41:03 +0000

We have been parenting our son for 16 months and we are very much hoping that we will be able to adopt him and his baby sister. I was really moved by Leslie’s comment. It is very clear to me that he doesn’t belong to me. Until the end of last year he was expected to be returned to his family of birth. He still spends almost half of time in his grandmother’s home. And it is very clear to me that I belong to him. I’m the one he seeks out in a crowd. I’m the one calls out for at night. I’m the one he wants to emulate. My biggest worry around the uncertainty of his permanent placement is not that I will lose him, but that he will lose me.

A privilege I have had as a foster parent was to be able to see my son fall in love with me.

By: Leslie

Leslie — Tue, 01 Feb 2011 01:18:04 +0000

I read somewhere recently something that has really stuck with me. The author was reflecting on the idea of possession, and her conclusion was this: we are our children’s much more than they are ours. I’ve been giving this a good deal of thought lately, and it’s true: I think of my parents as MINE. My father, on the other hand, has, from my earliest memories, told me, “I’m glad you came to live with us.” He’s never once expressed a sense of ownership towards me, but those simple demonstrations of love have naught but increased the sense that my parents belong to me, on some transcendental level. Maybe it is because I am an only child, maybe because I have received such tremendous love, and maybe, just maybe, it is because we really do belong to our children…

By: Renee Gougeon Gurski

Renee Gougeon Gurski — Tue, 25 Jan 2011 17:14:19 +0000

I love this so much!

By: Terri Davidson

Terri Davidson — Tue, 25 Jan 2011 16:14:45 +0000

As always, you nail it!

By: Carole Nafziger

Carole Nafziger — Tue, 25 Jan 2011 15:14:43 +0000

Excellent and very true

By: Lorraine Nowlin

Lorraine Nowlin — Tue, 25 Jan 2011 14:14:05 +0000

The author is the best type of person who should adopt.

By: Sara

Sara — Tue, 25 Jan 2011 01:06:30 +0000

This is a lovely post. (here from the creme)

By: John

John — Thu, 06 Jan 2011 14:58:42 +0000

Best post written on this subject–ever! I wish I had written it.