Comments on: Adoption Ethics and Birth Parents

By: Gaia

Gaia — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 23:03:59 +0000

Just becasue there are people who do bad things in adoption does not make the whole adoption “industry” or “community” or “business” bad. Adoption does way more good than bad. I am an adoptee and am very thankful to both sets of parents for what they gave to me. I have a relationship with my first family and of course with my real (adoptive) family. I am one lucky woman.

By: socialwrkr24/7

socialwrkr24/7 — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 03:08:16 +0000

Wow – great post on a subject I’ve been thinking about A LOT lately. I love adoption (I work with foster children) but hate thinking about any child not being parented by their first parents unless it is completely neccesary and of the first parents’ free will. First steps are sometimes the hardest!

By: Mrs. Gamgee

Mrs. Gamgee — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 13:18:38 +0000

This is a great post. As a ‘pseudo’ adopted child, I can speak to the benefit of being adopted by a family that has the means to love and care for you. I am saddened to read and see reports of adoption agency abuse continuing. But I do agree that these terrible situations are not the norm, just as in the IF world people like Octomom and the Gosselins are not the norm. I really hate that the media chooses those stories to be news-worthy, with never a mention of the countless families that struggle to achieve even one singleton pregnancy.

By: Renee

Renee — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 11:33:59 +0000

You always give me something to think about and I appreciate your honesty. I don’t know why it makes me feel better but it does when you tackle the hard issues in adoption. I’m an adoptee and an adoptive mom and a step mom. I worry like you do and like you I believe in the institution of adoption. I wish it were more perfect, but that’s not going to happen as long as people are involved. Again, thank you for being open with your uncertainties.

By: karlinda

karlinda — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 06:17:18 +0000

Very well put. It’s vital that we, as adoptive parents, do everything we can to make sure our agencies are ethical.

By: Krystal

Krystal — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 17:23:36 +0000

This is great information. While we are adopting our son through the foster care system (which, as you know, is a different experience entirely), it is great to hear news articles and blogs about this! Thanks for upping my awareness of this issue!

By: Guera!

Guera! — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 23:41:41 +0000

This was an excellent post. I am here for ICWL-(getting an early start.)

By: Mom Wanna Be

Mom Wanna Be — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 13:06:14 +0000

Great and thoughtful post. I have been so confused lately with all the talk about adoption ethics. It seems like no one has much clarity. I know you say you don’t, but I’ve been reading a lot and so far this post is the clearest thing I’ve seen. Thank you so much for what you do. I have recently discovered the Creating a Family radio shows. They are absolutely great. I’m working my way through the last 2 years. Some don’t apply to me, but the ones that do are great.

By: Dawn Davenport

Dawn Davenport — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 07:26:00 +0000

Ann-Marie, what a complex dilemma. Would you be comfortable with sending the info directly to the birth parents without an agency as intermediary? If so, could the licensing agency that I would assume was responsible for shutting your agency down, help you get contact information?

By: Ann-Marie Kennedy

Ann-Marie Kennedy — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 02:31:00 +0000

I feel for my daughters birth family because her agency was closed due to illegal activity and I have no place to send pictures and letters as was requested and agreed upon. I wish I could find an attorney to sue for the birth parents rights to receive pictures and letters, I think that they should have the right to expect what was agreed upon.