Comments on: Damaged Good: No Return Receipt Requested http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/damaged-good-return-receipt-requested/ I talk about adoption, infertility, adoptive parenting, and plain old parenting. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:57:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Lucy http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/damaged-good-return-receipt-requested/comment-page-1/#comment-2871 Lucy Tue, 11 May 2010 19:10:30 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=414#comment-2871 Thank you for continuing to follow this story and post to us on the Creating a Family Facebook group what's happening. I want to know what happens to this woman and that child. Also to adoptions from Russia. Thank you for continuing to follow this story and post to us on the Creating a Family Facebook group what’s happening. I want to know what happens to this woman and that child. Also to adoptions from Russia.

]]> By: Stephanie Lyons http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/damaged-good-return-receipt-requested/comment-page-1/#comment-2849 Stephanie Lyons Mon, 03 May 2010 05:31:07 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=414#comment-2849 Thanks for your insight and BALANCED approach! I think it is so easy to point a finger, but where we point may miss the bigger picture. I feel for everyone involved. And I second what an earlier poster said about the radio show you did on this case and on its impact on Russian adoptions. I'm glad to know that everything we are hearing from the media isn't true. Thanks for your insight and BALANCED approach! I think it is so easy to point a finger, but where we point may miss the bigger picture. I feel for everyone involved. And I second what an earlier poster said about the radio show you did on this case and on its impact on Russian adoptions. I’m glad to know that everything we are hearing from the media isn’t true.

]]> By: Cynthia http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/damaged-good-return-receipt-requested/comment-page-1/#comment-2845 Cynthia Fri, 30 Apr 2010 04:24:39 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=414#comment-2845 Great blog. Thanks for the show you did on the impact of this sad case on adoptioins from Russia. As a mom of a child with attachment issues who is doing well now, I was so glad that your guests pointed out all the things that can be done to help families. Great blog. Thanks for the show you did on the impact of this sad case on adoptioins from Russia. As a mom of a child with attachment issues who is doing well now, I was so glad that your guests pointed out all the things that can be done to help families.

]]> By: Denice http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/damaged-good-return-receipt-requested/comment-page-1/#comment-2841 Denice Mon, 26 Apr 2010 06:44:51 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=414#comment-2841 Thank you for this. I loved the show last week on what's happening in Russian adoptions right now as a result of this. Your psychologist guest did a good job of helping us understand what attachment disorders really are. Torry Hansen had other options. Thank you for this. I loved the show last week on what’s happening in Russian adoptions right now as a result of this. Your psychologist guest did a good job of helping us understand what attachment disorders really are. Torry Hansen had other options.

]]> By: Dawn http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/damaged-good-return-receipt-requested/comment-page-1/#comment-2840 Dawn Sun, 25 Apr 2010 14:35:26 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=414#comment-2840 Fingers: That story is beyond sad! There are so many families who would love and appreciate that poor child. She gives parenting a bad name. Fingers: That story is beyond sad! There are so many families who would love and appreciate that poor child. She gives parenting a bad name.

]]> By: christina http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/damaged-good-return-receipt-requested/comment-page-1/#comment-2839 christina Sun, 25 Apr 2010 01:39:13 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=414#comment-2839 This is such a sad story from all angles. Sad, too, that the stories of adoption that are so highly publicized are the ones that are tragic and have some sort of negativity. Not to say that it isn't newsworthy, but it's just sad that there are so many successful adoptions taking place that don't seem to raise any media attention. iclw This is such a sad story from all angles. Sad, too, that the stories of adoption that are so highly publicized are the ones that are tragic and have some sort of negativity. Not to say that it isn’t newsworthy, but it’s just sad that there are so many successful adoptions taking place that don’t seem to raise any media attention.

iclw

]]> By: Fingers Crossed http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/damaged-good-return-receipt-requested/comment-page-1/#comment-2835 Fingers Crossed Thu, 22 Apr 2010 20:00:43 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=414#comment-2835 This reminds me of a lady in our town - a friend of mine was new to the neighborhood and was out with her daughter walking & hoping to meet some new friends. The lady in question was out on the font porch with two boys around the same age as my friends daughter. So they went up, said hello and my friend asked if the boys were twins. "No - I adopted this one and got pregnant with this one soon after. The adopted one is a dud though, something must be wrong with him. He's slow, stupid & dumb. I was lied to by the agency, they said he was healthy, he's not." She then went on to tell my friend, a STRANGER, how she was at the end of her rope and how if things didn't turn around she was going to take him to a "camp" where other people go with Russian adoptees and hopefully leave him there because she couldn't deal with him anymore. OMG doesn't even cover it...who are these people and where do they get off? ICLW #119 This reminds me of a lady in our town – a friend of mine was new to the neighborhood and was out with her daughter walking & hoping to meet some new friends.

The lady in question was out on the font porch with two boys around the same age as my friends daughter. So they went up, said hello and my friend asked if the boys were twins.

“No – I adopted this one and got pregnant with this one soon after. The adopted one is a dud though, something must be wrong with him. He’s slow, stupid & dumb. I was lied to by the agency, they said he was healthy, he’s not.”

She then went on to tell my friend, a STRANGER, how she was at the end of her rope and how if things didn’t turn around she was going to take him to a “camp” where other people go with Russian adoptees and hopefully leave him there because she couldn’t deal with him anymore.

OMG doesn’t even cover it…who are these people and where do they get off?

ICLW #119

]]> By: Miriam http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/damaged-good-return-receipt-requested/comment-page-1/#comment-2834 Miriam Thu, 22 Apr 2010 15:53:39 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=414#comment-2834 Apparently my comment just got eaten :( I just wanted to say I'm glad I've found your blog and resources online- we've just decided to adopt, so I'll definitely be checking this site further for more info. Happy ICLW! ~Miriam (ICLW #30) Twitter: MiriamsHope (I think I follow you) :) Apparently my comment just got eaten :(

I just wanted to say I’m glad I’ve found your blog and resources online- we’ve just decided to adopt, so I’ll definitely be checking this site further for more info.

Happy ICLW!
~Miriam (ICLW #30)
Twitter: MiriamsHope (I think I follow you) :)

]]> By: Miriam http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/damaged-good-return-receipt-requested/comment-page-1/#comment-2833 Miriam Thu, 22 Apr 2010 15:51:56 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=414#comment-2833 I'm here from ICLW, and I'm really glad I've found your blog. My husband and I just made the decision to adopt within the last couple of weeks, right before this story broke. It's cast an interesting light on our discussions about domestic vs. international, that's for sure. But ultimately, I've walked away from this story just so angry and saddened by the damage this woman has caused to the international adoption community, particularly Russia/US adoptions. I'll definitely be following this blog along and catching up on back entries as we delve deeper into our own adoption journey. Happy ICLW! ~Miriam (ICLW #30) http://hannahweptsarahlaughed.blogspot.com I’m here from ICLW, and I’m really glad I’ve found your blog. My husband and I just made the decision to adopt within the last couple of weeks, right before this story broke. It’s cast an interesting light on our discussions about domestic vs. international, that’s for sure. But ultimately, I’ve walked away from this story just so angry and saddened by the damage this woman has caused to the international adoption community, particularly Russia/US adoptions. I’ll definitely be following this blog along and catching up on back entries as we delve deeper into our own adoption journey.

Happy ICLW!
~Miriam (ICLW #30)
http://hannahweptsarahlaughed.blogspot.com

]]> By: Sherry http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/damaged-good-return-receipt-requested/comment-page-1/#comment-2832 Sherry Wed, 21 Apr 2010 23:46:58 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=414#comment-2832 Well said Dawn. The media should be presenting this situation in just such terms. To vilify the mother, the adoption agency, the social worker or anyone else is to not address the real issues that are underlying this terrible situation. Thanks for a thorough presentation of all the possible contributing factors. I just learned of your website and plan to visit it again. I'm the mother of 2 biologic children (one via in vitro) and an adopted child from Korea, as well as a pediatrician. I wish your website would have been around when I faced infertility 10 years ago (or maybe it was?). Well said Dawn. The media should be presenting this situation in just such terms. To vilify the mother, the adoption agency, the social worker or anyone else is to not address the real issues that are underlying this terrible situation. Thanks for a thorough presentation of all the possible contributing factors. I just learned of your website and plan to visit it again. I’m the mother of 2 biologic children (one via in vitro) and an adopted child from Korea, as well as a pediatrician. I wish your website would have been around when I faced infertility 10 years ago (or maybe it was?).

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