Comments on: Are You Ready to Adopt

By: Amanda POTTER

Amanda POTTER — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 01:11:22 +0000

MY HUSBAND AND I REALLY WANT TO ADD ANOTHER CHILD OR 2 TO RAISE FOR EVER.IF ANYONE KNOW OF SOMEONE IN NEED AND CANT TAKE CARE OF THEIR CHILD WE WOULD LOVE TO ADOPT AGAIN.WE HAVE A 5YR OLD BOY WHO WAS TWO MONTHS PREEMIE 4 POUNDS AND HE IS BORN WITH FETAL ALCOHOL SPECTRUM DISORDER AND WE LOVE HIM LOTS AND WE WANT HIM TO HAVE A BROTHER OR SISTER WITH HIM.IF YOU KNOW OF ANYONE THAT COULD HELP ME OUT IN ADOPTING AGAIN PLEASE CONTACT ME THANKS

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 14:51:45 +0000

We have adopted two children and now desire again to have one by birth but not for the pure biology of it but because we cannot afford the upfront 20-30K needed to adopt again.

Infertily treatment is covered by our insurance with very little out of pocket expense and I find myslef questioning if I even want to go through all of that process again (we tried it with insurance covg before adopting).

At this point we have decided that we will adopt an embryo if we do proceed with infertility treatment. That way all of our children will still be adopted but I will have the pregnancy experience and will have more control than I feel I would have with domestic adoption.

By: Eddie K.

Eddie K. — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 07:14:47 +0000

Sadly, I am ready, but my husband is not. I know from listeining to a number of your shows that this is common and I am trying to follow your advice, but it is not easy. My husband loves your blog, but I’m hoping he doesn’t see this one. Please consider addressing this topic in another show–SOON.

By: Geochick

Geochick — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 20:00:25 +0000

I wish I had found this quiz when DH and I were discussing adoption! I know I dragged him into it before he was ready *ahem* so I’ve been told. For me, it hit halfway through the homestudy and we had to take a short break so that both of us could work through some of the grief that was hitting us. Even though I’ve never felt the longing to “be pregnant” (I just knew I wanted a family) I definitely went through a period of mourning the fact that I can’t get pregnant. I noticed on comment #4 that the poster mentioned that if she had had unexplained inferility she probably would have kept TTC while adopting. That’s definitely something I had to come to terms with given that I have unexplained infertility. My solution is to take BCP’s while we are going through the adoption process. I can’t wonder every month…I must admit – taking BCP’s after being diagnosed infertile feels a bit funny!

By: mary

mary — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 02:34:57 +0000

We adopted 4 siblings (ages 6-13) seven years ago after infertility treatments. All 4 kids were diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder and it has been a huge challenge for me to bond with them. I have not enjoyed being a parent. Now, they are having their own children and I am mourning, once again, not having bio children. I thought I was ready to adopt but I don’t know I would have done this again.

By: Dawn

Dawn — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 18:46:51 +0000

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By: Mrs. Gamgee

Mrs. Gamgee — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 15:16:47 +0000

My Beloved and I are just beginning to talk about a timeline for our ttc journey… as in, how long will we keep trying before looking at adoption? It’s something that I know certainly won’t be decided quickly or even easily, but for both of us, building our family is the goal… and it doesn’t truly matter how it happens.

~ICLW

By: SassyCupcakes

SassyCupcakes — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 06:19:30 +0000

This is such a great thought provoking post. I’ll admit that there are a few sometimes in there for me (2, 7, 8, 9), but I do feel that we’re ready to adopt. I find it difficult being so young (25) and far from menopause because I think people take our commitment to adoption less seriously given there are still so many years in which we could hypothetically conceive. I wonder if seeing something like this would help people understand just what we’ve decided to do.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 02:20:30 +0000

Thank you for this thought provoking post. I think the quiz is very enlightening. Adoption is definitely something I am considering. I do not feel that I have to be pregnant but the whole adoption process scares me.

By: wifey

wifey — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 05:06:30 +0000

Thanks for the thought provoking post. As of right now, my husband and I are pursuing both. We have both always felt drawn towards adoption and discussed it before we discovered our ttc problems. It just feels like the right time to us, although we are in the very beginning stages. I am also starting treatment with clomid. If we go for more aggressive treatment, it will be years from now since we’re on the young-ish side.

I think, no matter what, I’ll always feel at least a little jealous of pregnant women, regardless of whether or not I ever experience a full-term pregnancy, because even if I do get pregnant, I’ll be a worried, anxious, neurotic mess.