Comments on: A Reluctant Spouse: When Only One Partner Wants to Adopt

By: 4granted

4granted — Wed, 03 Aug 2011 18:40:59 +0000

One way to convince a spouse is with a compelling story of a positive adoption. Jennifer Grant’s new adoption memoir, “Love You More” is a great resource. As she tells the story of expanding their family from three kids to four by adopting a daughter from Guatemala, she addresses many of the issues surrounding adoption. But it’s skillfully woven in to a sweet, funny, tender story of what it means to be a family. I recommend it. Here’s the amazon link. http://amzn.to/oMmHGD

By: Holly

Holly — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 13:35:24 +0000

If you are interested to learn more about embryo adoption, there is a free online searchable donor database at http://www.dreamababy.com. There are available embryos right now at this clinic. They also have a blog at http://www.sweetfertility.com. Check it out!

By: Rhonda

Rhonda — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 17:30:30 +0000

Thaks for always talking about the stuff no one wants to talk about. This describes my life. I am so frustrated I could scream. I’ll try your approach first.

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 15:10:21 +0000

Yet another advantage to being a prospective single mom by choice. I have to deal with only my own reluctance.

By: Brandy

Brandy — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 15:02:08 +0000

Thank you for this! Very helpful.

ICLW

By: Pamela S. J.

Pamela S. J. — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 14:33:27 +0000

Yep, the social worker who did our homestudy seemed to think it was unheard of that I was not as wild about the idea as my husband and that I had taken longer to get on board than he did. We’ve had our son now for 14 months and I couldn’t be more happy than if I had given birth to him. So, you are right. It is not the kiss of death for one spouse to be more hesitant than the other.

By: TillIe

TillIe — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 00:50:54 +0000

I’m thankful my dh is on board with adoption if we have to go that route.

Happy iclw…#31

By: Kristi

Kristi — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 21:43:11 +0000

This is my situation to a T. I want to adopt so bad I wouldn’t do one more IF appointment if DH would give me the thumbs up to adopt. All I can do is trust in god’s calling for me and one day he will show me why I want to adopt.

By: Ashlee

Ashlee — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 20:23:30 +0000

I worry about this all the time. I’m more on board for adoption than my husband is, if that is what we decide to do. But I worry that he’ll never get on board. It’s nice to read that I’m not the only one who feels like this.

Happy ICLW

Ashlee, #50

By: Erica

Erica — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 18:42:23 +0000

Ahhh…the infertility ladder. Yes, I am ready for IVF yet my husband is not. I am nervous as we haven’t really had the adoption talk yet.