Comments on: Settling for Second Best http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/settling-for-second-best/ I talk about adoption, infertility, adoptive parenting, and plain old parenting. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:57:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Ali http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/settling-for-second-best/comment-page-1/#comment-1559 Ali Tue, 07 Apr 2009 17:57:11 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=59#comment-1559 Hi Dawn! I listen & read your blogs all the time. I have been a little behind while working on our adoption profile :) I'm your friend on facebook too :) My thoughts on this is I have never thought of Adoption as settling! I have been offered surrogacy many times since I found out I was infertile. My OBGYN was trying to push it! I just couldn't bring a child into this world that way, when adoption was an option! Our second adoption we were pursuing Ethiopia this past summer, but my husband got cold feet with all the gov't paper chase etc. So we switched to domestic adoption through a birthmother. I grieved over Ethiopia for a few months, and then moved forward. I never once considered that I was settling for domestic adoption. A child is God's gift no matter how they enter our lives. I am not going to say that I have never wanted my own biological children, but I knew my heart just wanted to be a mother. No matter who they were or what they looked like. I treasure how my son came into our lives through foster adoption, it was an awesome experience. I also feel good that we made a difference in his life by giving him a forever family, as he did for us! God brought us together, and that is how it was meant to be! I am happy to announce that we are approved and WAITING TO BE MATCHED as of last week :) Hi Dawn!

I listen & read your blogs all the time. I have been a little behind while working on our adoption profile :) I’m your friend on facebook too :) My thoughts on this is I have never thought of Adoption as settling! I have been offered surrogacy many times since I found out I was infertile. My OBGYN was trying to push it! I just couldn’t bring a child into this world that way, when adoption was an option! Our second adoption we were pursuing Ethiopia this past summer, but my husband got cold feet with all the gov’t paper chase etc. So we switched to domestic adoption through a birthmother. I grieved over Ethiopia for a few months, and then moved forward. I never once considered that I was settling for domestic adoption. A child is God’s gift no matter how they enter our lives. I am not going to say that I have never wanted my own biological children, but I knew my heart just wanted to be a mother. No matter who they were or what they looked like. I treasure how my son came into our lives through foster adoption, it was an awesome experience. I also feel good that we made a difference in his life by giving him a forever family, as he did for us! God brought us together, and that is how it was meant to be! I am happy to announce that we are approved and WAITING TO BE MATCHED as of last week :)

]]> By: Dawn http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/settling-for-second-best/comment-page-1/#comment-1546 Dawn Thu, 02 Apr 2009 12:22:58 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=59#comment-1546 Martha, what an absolutely beautiful post that illustrates my point so perfectly. I am so pleased you will soon be holding your "first best" daughter. By the way, we did an absolutely fascinating show on miscarriage on March 11. I am amazed at how little is known about this common occurrence. Martha, what an absolutely beautiful post that illustrates my point so perfectly. I am so pleased you will soon be holding your “first best” daughter. By the way, we did an absolutely fascinating show on miscarriage on March 11. I am amazed at how little is known about this common occurrence.

]]> By: Martha http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/settling-for-second-best/comment-page-1/#comment-1543 Martha Thu, 02 Apr 2009 04:47:18 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=59#comment-1543 Dawn- First of all, just listened to this week's radio show-- THANK YOU! You are such a wonderful host and remain so centered and impartial during your shows. It's a pleasure to listen and learn. Secondly- a personal side-note: We are awaiting USCIS approval for our VN adoption. Of course we were ecstatic to receive a referral after 2 years of infertility. Last fall, after receiving our referral I got pregnant. The pregnancy failed, but it was such a blessing, and here's why: our first thought upon seeing that little + on the stick was: "Oh my gosh. What are we going to do? We already have a daughter in Vietnam-- and she is our #1 priority." Of course it was sad (as always) to miscarry, the clarity that that experience brought my husband and I was priceless. We can say with 100% that we aren't "settling" with adoption. Our daughter is our #1 priority no matter where she came from. Dawn- First of all, just listened to this week’s radio show– THANK YOU! You are such a wonderful host and remain so centered and impartial during your shows. It’s a pleasure to listen and learn.
Secondly- a personal side-note: We are awaiting USCIS approval for our VN adoption. Of course we were ecstatic to receive a referral after 2 years of infertility. Last fall, after receiving our referral I got pregnant. The pregnancy failed, but it was such a blessing, and here’s why: our first thought upon seeing that little + on the stick was: “Oh my gosh. What are we going to do? We already have a daughter in Vietnam– and she is our #1 priority.” Of course it was sad (as always) to miscarry, the clarity that that experience brought my husband and I was priceless. We can say with 100% that we aren’t “settling” with adoption. Our daughter is our #1 priority no matter where she came from.

]]> By: Vinita http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/settling-for-second-best/comment-page-1/#comment-1541 Vinita Wed, 01 Apr 2009 19:54:27 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=59#comment-1541 Hi Dawn, I loved this blog. Couldn't have come at a better time! Also, I just wanted to let you know what a wealth of information your website, blogs and radio shows are! I have only scartched the surface of it. I am sure I'll rely your information as the times comes. So thank you for creating such a wonderful resource and keep it coming. Hi Dawn, I loved this blog. Couldn’t have come at a better time! Also, I just wanted to let you know what a wealth of information your website, blogs and radio shows are! I have only scartched the surface of it. I am sure I’ll rely your information as the times comes. So thank you for creating such a wonderful resource and keep it coming.

]]> By: Dawn Davenport http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/settling-for-second-best/comment-page-1/#comment-3074 Dawn Davenport Wed, 01 Apr 2009 16:02:00 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=59#comment-3074 Thanks Thanks

]]> By: Vinita Hulyalkar http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/settling-for-second-best/comment-page-1/#comment-3073 Vinita Hulyalkar Wed, 01 Apr 2009 15:54:00 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=59#comment-3073 Done! Done!

]]> By: Dawn Davenport http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/settling-for-second-best/comment-page-1/#comment-3072 Dawn Davenport Wed, 01 Apr 2009 15:08:00 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=59#comment-3072 Thanks Vinita. Would you mind adding this comment to the blog itself? Just go to http://www.creatingafamily.com/blog/ and leave a comment. Thanks Vinita. Would you mind adding this comment to the blog itself? Just go to http://www.creatingafamily.com/blog/ and leave a comment.

]]> By: Vinita Hulyalkar http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/settling-for-second-best/comment-page-1/#comment-3071 Vinita Hulyalkar Wed, 01 Apr 2009 13:13:00 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=59#comment-3071 Hi Dawn, I loved this blog. Couldn't have come at a better time! Also, I just wanted to let you know what a wealth of information your website, blogs and radio shows are! I have only scartched the surface of it. I am sure I'll rely your information as the times comes. So thank you for creating such a wondrful resource. Hi Dawn, I loved this blog. Couldn't have come at a better time! Also, I just wanted to let you know what a wealth of information your website, blogs and radio shows are! I have only scartched the surface of it. I am sure I'll rely your information as the times comes. So thank you for creating such a wondrful resource.

]]> By: Jamie http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/settling-for-second-best/comment-page-1/#comment-1540 Jamie Wed, 01 Apr 2009 02:19:03 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=59#comment-1540 You are so right, Dawn, there is no case where bringing a child into your home and family should be seen as settling - a family is a beautiful thing, however it is created. You are so right, Dawn, there is no case where bringing a child into your home and family should be seen as settling – a family is a beautiful thing, however it is created.

]]> By: Dawn http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/settling-for-second-best/comment-page-1/#comment-1539 Dawn Tue, 31 Mar 2009 20:15:46 +0000 http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/?p=59#comment-1539 Joanna, thanks for the thoughtful comment. That is my goal--to help others find the path that feels like the weight has been lifted. For you that path was adoption, for someone else that path may be donor egg or one more round of IVF. I'm so glad you found the BEST way to creat YOUR family. Joanna, thanks for the thoughtful comment. That is my goal–to help others find the path that feels like the weight has been lifted. For you that path was adoption, for someone else that path may be donor egg or one more round of IVF. I’m so glad you found the BEST way to creat YOUR family.

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