The Creating a Family show yesterday was so much fun. We had a panel of women who became first time moms when they were over 40. One was over 50 and is contemplating another pregnancy next year when she’ll be 52 or 53. If you’re over 40, this is a show you really need to listen to.
We talked about the advantages and disadvantages of being an older mother. The disadvantages are clear (less energy, less grandparent support, feeling out of step with your peer group, etc.), but there are also advantages (calmer, more time, financial security).
All the moms on the panel also talked about the intense feeling of gratitude that they felt at being able to parent. Because they had to work so hard and had waited so long to become a parent, they appreciated the opportunity to parent. They felt that this gratitude allowed them to be more present with their children and ride the ups and downs of parenting with less anxiety.