The unfortunately truth is that sometimes our adopted kids have sad, complicated, and often disturbing parts of their history
or birth parent’s history. Should adoptive parents tell their kids this part of their story? Should you tell your precious child that he was conceived through rape, that his birth father beat her birth mother, that his birth mother abuse drugs and alcohol while pregnant with him, or that her birth mother is in jail?
Why Pollute Their Minds
Adoptive parents often wonder why they would possibly tell their child information such as this. What possible good can come of it? Why rob this beautiful child of her innocence, why pollute his mind with such information? We talked about the whys and hows of telling children the more difficult parts of their history on this week’s Creating a Family show. This one is really really worth the listen.
The simple answer is that yes, you should tell your child. As adoption therapist Angela Magnuson said adopted people have the right to all of their story. We as parents don’t get to pick and choose what they need to know, it is information that belongs to them.