When we are first matched with our child or are in the midst of the early stages of adoption, it is tempting to want to share with the world all about our practically perfect child that joined our family in the practically perfect way of adoption.
We had placement 3 weeks ago of a beautiful 17 month old girl from foster-adopt. Friends and family have questions about why she was in foster and what her story is. Honestly, I’m an open book….I’ll tell anyone anything and I understand their curiosity, but I wonder, should I?
Be extremely careful about sharing too much personal detail about your child’s story. This goes for friends and family.
Can’t Tell Just One Person
I am a very good secret keeper. I don’t have a tendency to judge, and I don’t have a tendency to share someone else’s story. BUT, I often tell my husband what I’ve been told, unless specific told not to. He is my trusted other. I don’t feel like I’m violating a confidence, unless they’ve asked me not to. I assume what I tell my best friends will be shared with their husbands. That is just how it is. Most of us have a trusted other. Some people have quite a few.