Creating a Family » Adoptive Parenting

Hearing the Message Behind the Anger

Dawn — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 14:20:01 +0000

I’ve been contemplating lately on how in the world we reached this place of animosity between some of the adult adoptee community and some of the adoptive parent community. . Now, in truth, I don’t actually think it is all that bad in general. I know plenty of adults who were adopted, we all do, and most are supporters of the institution of adoption, although plenty would like to see some changes. But the internet is a whole other world!

I don’t know if it’s the virtual anonymity … [visit site to read more]

Calling all Korean Adoptee & Adoptive Families, and Gen’l Supporters of Adoption

Dawn — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 17:19:57 +0000

A few months ago I posted a blog (OK, let’s be honest here– it was more screed than blog) about the situation with Korean international adoptions. visit site to read more]

The Primal Wound

Dawn — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 19:42:35 +0000

Have you ever had that experience where all of a sudden one idea or thing keeps popping up in your life? When this happens, I try to pay attention. Lately I seem to be inundated with the people talking about the “primal wound” theory— the idea that “severing the connection between the infant and biological mother [through adoption] causes a primal wound which often manifests in a sense of loss (depression), basic mistrust … [visit site to read more]

Herschel Needs Two Clicks From Us

Dawn — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 15:58:18 +0000

Herschel started out life with the odds stacked against him. He was born with a serious heart defect where his aorta and pulmonary arteries were switched and he was abandoned by his parents. He needs surgery to save his life, and you and I can help without even having to spend one red cent. Check out his picture–it could melt your heart.

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Is It Really Possible to Love an Adopted Child as Much as a Biological Child?

Dawn — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 14:49:21 +0000

The following was posted by Mani, one of our community on the Creating a Family Facebook Support group. I think she beautifully addresses a subject that many folks wonder and worry about pre-adoption. With her permission I’m posting it here. Check out the adorable picture of her boys at the bottom.

I have a biological son, Skylar, who is 11 years old. He is absolutely the light of my life, and we have … [visit site to read more]

Which is Your Favorite Child?

Dawn — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 16:26:53 +0000

Do you have a favorite child? Don’t be so quick to deny it. Last month in Time Magazine’s cover story on parental favoritism, the author, Jeffrey Kluger, states: “It’s one of the worst kept secrets of family life that every parent has a preferred son or daughter… . And on pain of death, parents insist none of [this] is true.” … [visit site to read more]

“I am very grateful for having been adopted…Don’t get discouraged by voices of discontent” –Another View from an Adult International Adoptee

Dawn — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 13:27:29 +0000

We just received a comment on my blog about the role of international adoption in Korea and around the world. I didn’t want this viewpoint to be lost at the bottom of the 61 comments on a month old blog, so I’m re-posting it here.

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I speak as an adoptee, who lived in an … [visit site to read more]

Labeling Kids — How Much To Share and With Whom

Dawn — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 15:00:50 +0000

I posted a blog on Friday about over-sharing (TMI (Too Much Information) – Should We Tell Our Child’s Story) and received this thoughtful question. I’ll give my thoughts, but this is one where I’d really like to hear how you have handled similar situations.

My son has FASD and ADHD and I often need to bring this to … [visit site to read more]

Batman Didn’t Make the Cut-Racially Specific Toys for Transracial Adoptees

Dawn — Tue, 04 Oct 2011 18:30:57 +0000

When my daughter was little I spent way too much money and way too much time finding just the right Asian baby doll. When she was old enough for Barbies, I broke my “I don’t buy Barbies” rule to buy her the Asian one (although it hardly looked Asian) to go along with the three traditional ones she got from friends for her birthday. Her lunch box was adorable with its politically correct picture of kids of all colors and ethnicities holding hands in a circle, proclaiming something like … [visit site to read more]

A Dialog Between an Adoptive Parent and an Adult Adoptee

Dawn — Fri, 23 Sep 2011 13:58:37 +0000

Dear Adult Adoptee Bloggers:

When I read your blogs or your comments where you complain about adoption it scares me. No, actually it terrifies me. You see, all I really want is my child’s love. I want so much to be this child’s mom forever and ever, and have this child be my child forever and ever. I don’t mind sharing with his first family—really I don’t, but I want a forever place in his heart. I want to believe that he is not doomed to a … [visit site to read more]