I spoke at an adoption conference a while ago on transitioning from infertility treatment to adoption. My talk was aimed more
for the adoption professionals to help them understand infertility grief and how it affects the transition to adoption. After the conference I received the following email.
My husband and I attended the Toronto NACAC conference, and it was the first time since beginning the adoption process I felt that I was allowed to be upset that we were not able to conceive. Many of the social workers and people in my life have had the attitude of “well your adopting now, so why are you so upset?”, “You will be a mom eventually so why worry about that whole pregnancy part”, “Its not fair to the kids you will bring home if you cant be happy that you are adopting instead”. So I want to thank you for that… I was the fool crying her eyes out in the back.
The Many Losses of Infertility
Infertility is a disease of many losses. To name just a few:
- The loss of being able to plan when to have a family.