Last week, I blogged on some insensitive comments posted on an essay about the pain felt by many infertile woman on Mother’s Day.
(“Why Not Just Adopt”) It wasn’t, however, just the infertile that were maimed by thoughtlessness. A number of comments by infertile people in response to the questions of why not adopt echoed Maire: “Adoption is not the same as having a child of your own.”
The statement that adoption is not the same as having a child of your own is both remarkably accurate and remarkably wrong. The first part—“not the same as”—is quite true. Adoption and giving birth are two very different ways of creating your family. Just as New York City and Paris are two different vacation destinations, or chocolate and vanilla are two different flavors of ice cream.