Comments on: Top Ten Myths about Infertility

By: Christina

Christina — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 01:43:46 +0000

great list! thanks for sharing. i’ve experienced them all! my most hurtful, though, has been after having our miscarriage. almost every person says, “well, it was probably for the best,” after they found out our little girl would have had down syndrome. sorry, but NO! it’s not for the best! the best would have been to have her with us, living, blessing everyone around her…whether that was with a disability or not. so frustrating!

By: Dawn

Dawn — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 12:31:54 +0000

Liddy, I wonder if they would have said that to E about you if the problem had been reversed? “Hey, buddy, you could always dump her and find a more fertile woman if you really want kids.” Sensitivity seems to be in short supply with some folks!

By: Dawn

Dawn — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 12:29:57 +0000

Debbi, you are so right. The assumption is that all infertility comes from people choosing to wait too long to start trying to conceive. That is simply not true.

By: Dawn

Dawn — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 12:28:17 +0000

Sparkly, we have been told that we have the most resources “out there” on donor embryo. We have done two radio shows on this option as well. You can find them and all our other resources at http://www.creatingafamily.org/component/search/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=430:embryo-donationadoption&catid=37:infertility-resources

By: sparklythings

sparklythings — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 05:05:34 +0000

oops – my link for my blog was wrong in my comment – i’m a dork.

By: sparklythings

sparklythings — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 04:56:44 +0000

i get “adopt and you’ll get pg” from my family – because it happened to my own mother (got rest her soul). she and my dad were married for 4 years, it was the ’50s, and no babies. so they adopted my brother when he was two. six months later…pg with my sister! ARG!! of course, it was another 14 years of unprotected sex before i came along…because the woman clearly had reproductive issues that adoption didn’t solve!!

i’m glad to see that you have demb on this site! infor is pretty thin on this family building option!

xoxoxo
sparklythings

By: Debbi

Debbi — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 03:43:48 +0000

Dawn, I follow you on twitter and just had to check this posting out. Here’s a myth that I am sure some have heard before.

“Here is another myth that really needs to be ‘busted’. “Infertility is only a worry for older women.” Unfortunately this just is not true, fertility begins to decline in the late 20′s and significantly declines after age 35. In my book, as I get older, 35 still seems pretty young to me. Although age can be a factor in infertility, I have known 18 year olds that needed treatment just as much at 38 year olds did. Infertility can happen at any age.” (read the full article at http://www.ttcdreams.com/myths.html)

Thanks for all you do, keep up the good work.

By: Liddy

Liddy — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 23:42:55 +0000

My least favorite, is an adaptation on #8. When someone found out that E had the fertility problem. She said, “If you wanted a child that badly, you should have married someone else.” Umm… yeah thanks for that tip. ARGH!

Liddy from
No. 144: the unfair struggle (male-factor, speedskating, life)

By: Dawn

Dawn — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 21:07:00 +0000

Chris, I know what you mean. The reason is is noteworthy is that it happens so seldom. Also, the assumption is that after you adopt you still crave or strongly desire to get pregnant. While this is true for some, it is not true for all.

By: chris

chris — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 20:23:34 +0000

#9 gets me every single time, Dawn! I still hear from the same people, over and over, are you pregnant yet? Um, HELLO, DO NOT WANT TO BE!!!!! Have a beautiful daughter and another 3yo on the way….NO MORE!!!! I try to gently tell people that not everyone who adopts gets pg and that lots of times it is a miracle when that happens and that is why they hear about it, not because adoption is a fertility treatment.