Ten Tips for Surviving the Holidays When You’re Infertile
Take especially good care of yourself during this time of
year. Make sure you are getting enough sleep and
exercise. Enjoy all the holiday foods, but make
sure you eat healthy when not at the holiday
table. Don't overindulge in alcohol! It
will make you morose, too talkative, and possibly hung over--none
of which you need during this season.
Review past holidays to see where the major stressors were and
make a plan to be proactive and address them beforehand this
year. We give very specific examples in the
Infertility Survival Guide to the
Talk with your parents or in-laws about how it feels for you.
Acknowledge that it isn't their fault and
they didn't make you feel this way. Use
"I" statements. "I find it hard when the
conversation is always about the
grandkids." "I dread seeing Betsy
this year since she is 7 months pregnant."
Consider limiting the time you spend with your family if it is
Why not change the way you celebrate. Go
camping or to Paris for the weekend. Go out to
dinner with friends rather than doing the big family
celebration. Join your parents for dinner after
Volunteer on the holiday (serving meals at a homeless shelter,
playing bingo at a nursing home). If your work
needs people over the holiday, sign up.
Plan something for at least one day in the holiday that you
really are looking forward to. Maybe a guilt
free shopping trip or visit to a spa.
Make a date to see your siblings away from their children to
allow you time to really visit.
If you know you might react badly when under stress, decide in
advance how you want to behave. Avoid excessive
alcohol. Tell your husband of your
plans. Tell your parents in advance that it is
hard for you, but you have committed to controlling your tongue or
Make sure you incorporate that the events that are meaningful or
joyful to you into your plans. Do not let
infertility rob you of these joys.